Where did October go?

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You blink then it is gone……

Well that’s what it feels like to me. Where on earth did October go?

I seem to have fallen in to the habit of filling you all in the monthly happenings in The MaryLou house so here goes nothing….

October traditionally stands out to me as the month that we have half term and the month that we celebrate Halloween. I dare say for most of us this is also the case. In some cases you will have started your Christmas shopping and in others you may have completed it (OMG I wish).

We started out the month launching Libby’s event “The Big Chop”. I am sure you have read the post already but in case you haven’t I will give you a brief rundown.

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Libby recently asked us to explain to her what Cancer really was. We are very honest with the children and obliged, telling her in as much detail as we could, but still keeping the details child like, what Cancer is, who it can affect and the treatments it can involve. She went away and processed the information and decided she would like to raise money for children and their families “near our house” that are and have been affected by Cancer.

She had already decided she would like to have her hair cut and donate it to The Little Princess Trust but she decided she would like to gain sponsorship for The Toma Fund.

I set about finding a Hair Salon that would be happy to help us and to our delight Toni and Guy came forward and offered to help us at their Durham Salon.

From there, fundraising has gone from strength to strength and over on JustGiving we have so far raised just over £250, we have sponsorship forms out and about that have raised about the same so far, along with that I am running a raffle. When I told Libby’s story there were some amazing people and companies that stepped forward and said they would like to help. We have had some fantastic prize donations from Metro Radio and Brian Moore, Newcastle Greyhound Stadium, Sunderland Greyhound Stadium, Begu Tea, Sharron Bates, Sweet Evangelines, Tanfield Railway, Arriva, Chiquito, tombola, Lickety Split, 3M and Babsyliz.

Numbers are still available over on the Facebook page. Priced at £1 each. All money raised goes to The Toma Fund and will be drawn on the 18th of November or when all the numbers are sold.

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School photo’s….they happened…..it’s really scary how much a like these too are. Love their pictures though (really must remember to order them this week).

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October brings the delivery and publishing of the “Santa Clause Toy Books” to us adults that is the Smyths Book, Argos Christmas Book, Tesco Toy Book and the random other Christmas Toy Books. This year Libby is circling items in Red Pen and Penny has the Black Pen.

As you can see from the picture Penny has spent a lot of time writing her very understandable lists…

We have yet to write our lists properly but high on Penny’s list is a Furby, A Cry Baby and a new Baby Doll.

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Libby has asked for a Hatchimal, a Cry Baby doll, Harley Quinn Doll, Harley Quinn Dress up and a Shibajuku doll.

Lets hope Santa is preparing himself for the pages and pages of the tatty toy books that are heading in his direction.

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Penny and I had some lovely jaunts in October to collect prizes for the raffle and just because.

We visited Seaham one very cold windy morning, but there is something so homely about the seaside for me. As you know from previous posts I lose all my woes when I go to the seaside (Even if it is cold, wet and windy).

Whilst there we visited the amazing Lickety Split. We had never been before and I was so desperate to have a try of their treats. Penny was very adamant that she would like a Pink Ice Cream, So she got a Sundae with Strawberry Ice Cream, Bubblegum Ice Cream, Strawberry Sauce and M & M’s.

Her face says it all…..

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I was sensible and ordered a Panini…..(lets not mention that I finished Penny’s Sundae shhhhh )

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Definitely worth a visit if you have not been before.

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A month would not be complete without a night or two with my bestie.

Deborah (Country Heart and Home) and I were invited along to the Autumn and Winter launch at Katie’s Garden in Sunderland. It is always a good night no matter what we do but on this occasion we got craft and create fairy houses together. To read more the post I wrote about the night is Katie’s Garden – Sunderland.

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Then came the buying of Halloween Costumes. I begrudge paying an absolute fortune for them and was quite stressed that both the girls needed a new one. Regan had decided that dressing up for Halloween was “not his thing” this year so that left me with just the two too buy.

I did the usual browsing around and was absolutely blown away by not only the selection in Home Bargains but the prices too.

Penny chose a “Pumpkin Witch” Dress and I chose for Libby and got her the “Witch Bride” dress.

Both girls were delighted with their dresses and the hyper for Halloween began.

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I had a very productive ride up to the Intu Metro Centre. (I say productive, it was simply made productive as I found my Christmas Eve box PJ bottoms.)

Every year I go up before Christmas and see PJ’s that are Chritmassy and think, yes they are fabulous, I will get them the next time I am here. Then I go back and who knew? They have none left. So I ceased the opportunity and got them and the girls Christmas PJ’s from Primark.

It would be very rude not to pop over to IKEA while I was there of course. So I ventured over and came away with some bits and pieces for people for Christmas, some candles (standard for me ) and some irresistible wrapping paper.

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Then came the week of Surgery.

The day before I went in Mark and I were invited to the amazing Crook Hall and Gardens in Durham. What an amazing place to visit. To read more about our visit it is the Crook Hall and Gardens post.

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On the evening of the night before surgery, following a family funeral, the hair got cut off. It needed to be off so my surgeon and I could see what was really going on under it. I do find it so liberating having no hair. Cutting it off wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be. The gut wrenching when the first clump dropped to the floor was quite significant but I made sure I went straight down the middle first. (No turning back that way) and before I knew it, the hair was no more.

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The following morning involved a 4am start and an early arrival at hospital ready for my surgery. I was first on the list and arrived in recovery 4 hours later having had 13 BCC’s removed.

I was really quite poorly after and incurred an overnight stay as a result. Due to the excellent care of the Nursing Staff at UHND,  I went home the following day and I did feel fractionally better. Yet in so much pain. The kids were all on standby though and as one left me to go to bed another one of them took over and made sure I was OK.

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As the days have gone by and the stitches have been removed and fallen out I feel a lot better and the scars are so neat and well healed already. The support I was offered by not only family and friends but people that don’t know the full story was unbelievable and I can only thank you all for that. The flowers that got sent from work were also amazing.

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To read more you can find the story on the Surgery Update post and if you want more in depth pictures check out Before, During and After.

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Dance Schools Halloween Party. Costume outing number one. In hindsight spraying her hair red for the first outing of the white costume maybe wasn’t the most sensible of ideas but it added to the effect. (the dress however looks like someone has sprayed fake blood all over it).

We painted her face with a lovely little kit from B & M . I got the face paint in there last year and was over the moon to find that they had the same kit in for this year (£3.99). A fraction of the price that bigger shops were selling.

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Oooooh now, Mark’s Bovril addiction is no secret and I thought my Peppermint Tea one was just as bad. That is until my hospital stay. As I can not have caffeine my options were a cold drink or Horlicks. Well I fear I may have developed an addiction that rivals the Bovril addiction.

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I have always liked it, but not to this extent. Saying that I think my addiction has been made worse by the fact that I am having to limit myself to one cup a day due to the sheer amount of milk that you use to make it.

Last but not least was Halloween with Deborah (Country House and Home).

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As you well know we always have a good night and it was lovely to be invited down to share Halloween with my Bestie and her beautiful family. The house was decorated fantastically.

This is the first year in quite a few where we haven’t had a party or decorated much. So the decision has been made that we are going all out next year.

Deborah had arranged a Tin Can Alley, Put The Smile on the Skeleton, Bobbing for Apples and some other lovely games for the kids and an amazing spread for us all. Every little detail was considered (I wouldn’t expect anything else from Deborah though). What a fantastic night.

The kids went trick or treating on Halloween itself and came hold with their bags full. They have had “The most fantastical Halloween ever” apparently. I certainly will not argue with that……

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Catch up on all things us

Catch up on all things us

Our Holiday was great but all good things come to an end and we were back to reality. School started, Nursery began, we were back to exercise and dieting and we have had a busy few weeks. I touched on … Continue reading

Gobbledegook Dilemma

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WARNING WAFFLE ALERT!!

The postman brought me two letters yesterday…..

One from The Freeman Hospital in Newcastle and the other from The University Hospital of North Durham.

It seems the only rational way to reason the contents of the letters is by putting it down in writing and having a good old waffle to you.

The first one, from The Freeman was from the registrar that I have been speaking to in regards the Erivedge treatment. It was my copy of the letter that had been sent to both my GP and also my Plastic Surgeon. It laid out the exact chain of events that had occured with her and ended by saying I was going back in a few weeks to commence the treatment.

The second letter was from the Appointments Officer for Plastics at University Hospital of North Durham with an appointment for a pre operative assessment and a date for my next surgery.

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Now thats all well and good you may think but one of the conditions of my taking the Erivedge is that I can not have surgery for 6 – 9 months. Currently, I have at least five BCC’s which are larger than I like them to be and quite frankly I want rid of them, well that is how my mind is set up to work, find a BCC have it chopped off……Brutal way to put it but that is the upshot of it.

I phoned UHND a few weeks ago and asked about likely surgical dates and I was told October so when the appointment turned up yesterday I was a little taken a back.

For all my mind was clear on where I wanted to go with the Erivedge, I now have a serious niggle at the back of my mind. Here I have the option to get rid of my current ones in a few weeks, go through Surgery and be laid up for a week or take the Medication and potentially still have to have this surgery of surgery of some kind to remove the same growths in 6 -9 months time, all the time having to go through the possible side effects that it may bring.

(I hope this is making sense to you, I am writing as I think so sometimes it is a bit gobbledegook.)

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So here I am yet again in decision making land….let me make this clear…I really do not like decision making land.

What I need to do in the next couple of days is to give UHND a call and see if I can arrange a clinic appointment with my surgeon sooner rather than later.

His opinion on the matter needs to be gained but also what I need to do is realistically assess how many BCC’s I currently have. I need the full count to be able to aid any decisions. I know I have one on my back, one on my shoulder, one in my eyebrow, two small facial ones and then there is my head.

I know I have scalp ones but the only way to truly assess how many and where is by shaving the whole lot off. I keep threatening it and keep getting talked out of it, or being told it is very drastic and I agree, yes it probably is. However, I do like having a shaved head, keeping an eye on growths is so much easier, and currently, looking in the mirror trying to cover bald patches up everyday is more soul destroying than having to shave it all off. I hate the way my bald patches shine through and yes, you will still be able to see them, and yes I will have indents in my head that will look odd, which will attract stares but people who truly want to know my story will ask. The chances are very high also that if I start the Erivedge that I will lose my hair, maybe no totally but it will fall out. What would be more disturbing pulling out a handful of hair or leaving a few whiskers on your pillow?

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Awwwwww I don’t know ….I hate being in limbo….it consumes me and drains me. I wish there was someone who could wave a magic wand and tell me the path I should take….alas there isn’t so I have to go on instinct….

Anyway….if you have read this….thank you…..if I have left you feeling in Limbo….sorry….there is always someone worse off than yourself and in the grand scheme of things, my issues are tiny in the woes of the world, for the most I just get on with it but this one decision has got me on the fence again…. *sigh*

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